Guest Post with Greta Horwood

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How to recover after a bad marriage

Relief, guilt, failure, freedom. These are just some of the many feelings you may experience when your relationship ends.  You may have had a bumpy start, but be thankful you are out of it and focus on your life to come.  You now have the chance to became a ‘new you’.

Every bad marriage has good parts to remember, remember those and be grateful you do have some to remember.

Now single again re fashion yourself, find a new dress style, find new friends, go out and meet people.  Tell people how happy you are to be you again.  Show the world you are a survivor, don’t let the world close in around you, push outwards, upwards, be free, fly and be happy.  Don’t let the past drag you down.  You can do it, believe in yourself.

A change of jobs helps.  Out with the old and bring on a new you.  With the new you, you might find a new friend, a new man in your life.  

But you don’t need a man in your life, live a single life to the full.  You may be better single, you will have freedom.  Your marriage took away your freedom, well in your case it did.  Many marriages are a partnership, where partners are friends and lovers.  They live life together, they are happy, they are free, but always so together.  Strive for that in your new life.

Take things easy don’t marry in haste.  You have time, you are beginning a new life, that chance will change your life for the better.  Just give yourself space and time.

Don’t allow friends to wallow in self pity for you, tell them you are happy, even if you are not.  You don’t need friends like these.  Dump any joint friends, who favour your husband, you don’t need them.  If they like him so much, tell them to try living with him.

Think about what’s made you feel better in the past during difficult times. It could be sleeping more, watching nonsense TV or sharing your tough times with a good friend or family member.  Try this again.

Think positively.

When loosing a husband to death you grieve, you have to go through almost the same process to recover from a bad marriage.  Seek the comfort of good friends, they will help.

After the initial shock, you start on a journey which takes you through a cycle of emotions.  Things will seem chaotic, even everyday things like getting up and getting dressed is so much linked with your past, it becomes something you don’t want to do.  You must get past these thoughts.

STOP pick yourself up off the floor, dust yourself off and start your new life.   It is not simple, but it is not impossible,  Think positive, put one foot in front of the other walk forward to a new life and a new you!

It is a daunting journey but it is important to remember you’re not alone.  There are many others who have been through similar experiences and there are many places to turn to for support.  Look in your telephone directory on the internet.  If you need help, accept it, let others help.  Many organisations have trained counsellors, accept their help.

Above all think positively and look forwards not backwards.

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Sun, Sea & Sex

Escaping to live on a Caribbean island, Zeeta and her two best friends reflect on their turbulent lives, loves and the decisions that shaped them.

Growing up Zeeta always strove to be the perfect daughter and be everything her parents hoped. Unfortunately, she soon realised that she’d never be good enough, it’s her brother who holds their love. Thankfully, she can always turn to her lifelong friend Sheila —a boy-mad teenager whose love of the opposite sex will follow her into adulthood with a rollercoaster of consequences. Determined to make something of her life Zeeta continues to be a model student and earns a place at cookery college where good qualifications should pave the way to a career and security. But getting the job she wanted proved impossible. However, a chance meeting on her train to work with Peggy —a vibrant and successful career woman— who offers Zeeta an exciting new job in London changes the course of her life forever.

Happily enjoying her new independence, and friendship with Peggy, Zeeta finally feels like life and luck is on her side. And so whilst at a work conference when she unexpectedly meets her childhood friend Martin Zeeta wastes no time throwing herself into a whirlwind romance. And when Martin proposes marriage she doesn’t hesitate but love never did run smoothly and all too soon Zeeta’s bliss leads to disaster and heartbreak. Reeling from events, on the rebound and emotionally unready, Zeeta quickly falls into a second marriage. But her second husband has a dark side one with a depraved sexual appetite. Trapped and afraid it is only with the help and support of her two best friends, Sheila and Peggy, that Zeeta will find the strength to finally emerge free and independent.

A story of life, love and friendship, Sun, Sea and Sex by Greta Horwood is the perfect next read for fans of commercial women’s and romantic fiction .

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About the author: Retired and living in Great Horwood, Buckinghamshire Greta Horwood is the pen name for Patricia Rudkin. An active member of her community, Patricia has worked as the secretary for the Village Hall management committee, arranged village fetes and fundraising events and worked as the caretaker for Great Horwood Village School. Along with her late husband, she also used to run a youth club called Great Horwood Sports and Activities Club. And up until last January she was a weekly contributor to the Buckingham and Winslow Advertiser and Great Horwood Village News. Patricia is also Membership Secretary and Welfare Officer for the Blue-Pointed Siamese Cat Club Committee and life member of the Seal Pointed Siamese Cat Club. She fund raises for cat welfare, via eBay for both clubs. Her other interests include Genealogy.

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